Houston Forward Times

07 August 2013 Written by  Jamey Watts

OLD ENOUGH

teenager-arguing-with-parentsStop! I think I’m old enough to start making my own decisions. You made your own decisions; now let me make mine.  

As we get older, we start to see things differently. Take our parents for instance. As we mature and shift from childhood to adulthood, we don’t see them as superheroes anymore; we see them as flawed human beings. However, there’s no shift in parents’ mindsets. Although they know that we’re getting older, they still don’t want their children to grow up and even when we turn 40, they still see us as their babies.  

Parents, we get that you care but you guys can really do the most sometimes. There is a fine line between parents trying to keep their children safe and parents simply sheltering their children from the world. Parents who try to protect their children can still give their children some freedom which allows them the opportunity to grow and to learn on their own. Overprotective parents who shelter their child from the world are only destroying the kid. Soon as that kid goes off to college they will most likely become buck wild because of their newfound freedom. Then the parent becomes shocked because they think that “they raised” their child to behave a certain way. Being overprotective does not mean you raised them well. In fact, it could cause later resentment from the child onto the parent.  

Parents should give us some space and let us breathe. I know that we are young and living in your house under your rules, so you can put a stop to a lot of the things that we do, namely parties and dating. But sooner or later, we are going to be away from the house and still end up doing what we wanted to do in the first place. Instead of sheltering us, you might as well allow us the opportunity to do things with your permission so that we can do things responsibly.  

When are parents going to understand? We are not that little boy or little girl anymore. Parents always tell us that we just don’t understand, but sometimes it seems to be the other way around.  

Parents have to trust that they raised us the right way. But now it’s time for us to go and venture out. A caterpillar doesn’t stay a caterpillar forever.  

On the other end, as teenagers, we don’t think too much about the risks that we are taking. People get shot at parties almost every weekend, so parties can be dangerous. These are things that parents warn us about and we don’t initially consider, which is why open dialogue is important.  

But at the same token, parents still need to remember that although we will always be their babies, we are not babies anymore!  

Sincerely,
A Tired Seventeen-Year-Old…