Houston Forward Times

18 June 2014 Written by  Rev. Manson B. Johnson II

Lesson 5: The Pillar Of Self-Control (Respect)

12 PILLARS OF CHARACTER FOR TOOL BOX MEN/BOY

(TOOL BOX MEN & BOYS BUILDING FOR SUCCESSFUL LIVING)

THE BIG IDEA: Things that last in life are built from the inside out.

Bible Fact: Men & boys that make the Word of God their tool box for building their personal lives will please God and have great success.

Joshua 1:8; I Corinthians 13:11

As a TOOL BOX man or boy’s character is being built God is at work inside of them to do four (4) valuable things: It is up to each individual man and boy to do at least four (4) things to help the greatness and completeness of their potential to come out:

(1) He must cultivate the small potentials;

(2) He must culturalize the development process;

(3) He must cooperate with a system of standards that will keep him growing in the right direction; and

(4) He must communicate often with the creator of his true potential for the rest of their life.

Standard Oil was once one of the biggest companies in the world, led by the famous John D Rockefeller. On one occasion a company executive made a bad decision. It cost the firm $2 million. This was the late 1800′s and $2 million was a huge sum.

Edward Bedford, a partner in the company had an appointment to see Rockefeller. When he entered Rockefeller’s office he saw his boss bent over a piece of paper, busily scribbling notes. When Rockefeller finally looked up he said to Bedford,  "I suppose you’ve heard about our loss? I’ve been thinking it over," Rockefeller said, "and before I ask the man in to discuss the matter, I’ve been making some notes."

Bedford looked across the table and saw the page Rockefeller had been scribbling on. Across the top of the page was the heading, "Points in favour of Mr __________." Below the heading was a long list of the man’s good qualities, including notes of three occasions where he had made decisions that had earned the company many times more than his error had lost.

Bedford later said, "I never forgot that lesson. In later years, whenever I was tempted to rip into anyone, I forced myself first to sit down and thoughtfully compile as long a list of good points as I possibly could. Invariably, by the time I finished my inventory, I would see the matter in its true perspective and keep my temper under control. There is no telling how many times this habit has prevented me from committing one of the costliest mistakes any executive can make — losing his temper."---Source: reported in Bits & Pieces, September 15, 1994.

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become your character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

Defined: What is it?

SELF-CONTROL: the quality that allows you to stop yourself from doing things you want to do that might not be in your best interest or that will bring unnecessary harm upon others.

Questions:

What are other ways that Mr. Rockefeller could have handle the matter with the person that made the loss?

What are some good that came out of his restraint and collective manner in which he resolved the issue?

Demonstrated: What will it do or how is it applied in life?

Self-Control is a personal decision but must be done with insight and foresight; I Samuel 24:1-15

Self-Control should be administered with Matthew 7:12 in mind.

Reward: How does it benefit?

God exalts a man by the thoughts and contents of his character; I Samuel 16:7; I Chronicle 11:1-3; Psalm 112:5

Restraint of emotional actions begin with the right thoughts and spoken words; Proverbs15:1; 25:15

Prevailing wisdom turns into honor, power and the will of God; Genesis 45:5-8; 50:15-21