12 PILLARS OF CHARACTER FOR TOOL BOX MEN/BOY
(TOOL BOX MEN and BOYS BUILDING for SUCCESSFUL LIVING)
THE BIG IDEA: Things that last in life are built from the inside out.
Bible Fact: Men and boys that make the Word of God their tool box for building their personal lives will please God and have great success.
Joshua 1:8; I Corinthians 13:11
As a TOOL BOX man or boy’s character is being built God is at work inside of them to do four (4) valuable things: It is up to each individual man and boy to do at least four (4) things to help the greatness and completeness of their potential to come out:
- He must cultivate the small potentials;
- He must culturalize the development process;
- He must cooperate with a system of standards that will keep him growing in the right direction; and
- He must communicate often with the creator of his true potential for the rest of his life.
What a sharp contrast with a scene that occurred on a New York street nearly two decades before. Kitty Genovese was slowly and brutally stabbed to death. At least thirty-eight of her neighbors witnessed the attack and heard her screams. In the course of the 90-minute episode, her attacker was actually frightened away, then he returned to finish her off. Yet not once during that period did any neighbor assist her, or even telephone the police. The implications of this tragic event shocked America, and it stimulated two young psychologists, Darly and Latane, to study the conditions under which people are or are not willing to help others in an emergency. In essence, they concluded that responsibility is diffused. The more people present in an emergency situation, the less likely it is that any one of them will offer help. This is popularly called the "bystander effect." (In the actual experiment, when one bystander was present, 85 percent offered help. When two were present, 62 percent offered help. When five were present, then it decreased to 31 percent.) ---Lawrence S. Wrightsman, Social Psychology in the Seventies (Monterey, Calif.: Brooks/Coal Publishing Company, 1972), pp. 33-34. quoted in Courage - You Can Stand Strong in the Face of Fear, Jon Johnston, 1990, SP Publications, p. 37
Defined: What is it?
RESPONSIBILITY: the required management or duty of an obligation of control over something or over someone. It is proper behavior towards a requirement as an obligation.
- Why do you think that a single person or a smaller group of people are more likely to help in the time of an emergency?
- What do you think motivates a person to help another person when necessary?
- Are Christians obligated to help everyone they meet or deal with in life?
II. Demonstrated: What will it do or how is it applied in life?
A. Being responsible cuts out attempting to shift the blame to others; Genesis 3;12-13
B. Each man/boy is required to shoulder his own obligation to be responsible in life; Ezekiel 18:20, 30; 33:1-9; Romans 12:13, 6-8;
C. Judging when to respond to help others is a personal decision; Luke 10:30-36
III. Reward: How does it benefit?
A. God honors and rewards faithful responsibility; Proverbs 11:18; 22:4;24:14; Ecclesiastes 11:1-6; Matthew 25:14-30